The Law of Polarity

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Anakin Skywalker: If you’re not with me, then you’re my enemy.

Obi-Wan Kenobi: Only a Sith deals in absolutes.

Why open with dialogue from star wars? In this scene we establish that Anakin has become polarised to such a degree, that he can only see two versions of reality. When Obi-Wan Kenobi  replies “that only a Sith deals in absolutes” he is reminding the antagonist character (Anakin) that absolutes are what drive us to taking an extreme point of view, which can ultimately render us powerless.

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The law of polarity is one of seven hermetic principles that are said to govern our universe. One of the easiest ways to understand the law of polarity is to imagine a pole. One side is very hot, the other very cold. Although hot and cold may appear to be opposites, they are in fact extremes of the same thing, (in this case temperature) Sir Isaac Newton revealed that “any action has an equal and opposite reaction; forces come in pairs”

So how does the law of polarity relate to our own lives?

We experience these polarising affects in our everyday lives. In politics, in the media, in business and even amongst our peers.
Problems begin to arise when we swing too far towards either side of this pole. We can start to lose the ability to empathise fully, and in essence (unknowingly in most cases) give our power away to whatever is behind the polarising feud.

In most cases, the only people that benefit from polarisation is the group/idea behind the creation of the pole.
For example, imagine a group decides that all their members must speak a certain accent. The people that do have the particular and wanted accent are happy to participate in the group. The people who do not have the accent become enraged that they are excluded, purely based upon the way in which they speak. People argue, words are thrown around, the row explodes onto social media.

Now think, who benefits from this? Not the polarised individuals, but the group. The group received a ton of exposure and are thrilled that polarising others boosted their own popularity.
The law of polarity can work to our advantage in many respects. It is what allows us to learn and expand in wonderful ways. We experience problems, and then find solutions. This is how amazing invention has taken place, and how great thinkers and scientists have changed the way we understand the world.

However, to live a balanced and harmonious lifestyle, becoming depolarised is key. One can never be fully depolarised in this dualistic and physical reality, but we can take steps to protect ourselves from falling into polarised viewpoints, which may not serve us.

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How to know if we are polarised?
• We see a post on the internet we disagree with and reply with our view point straight away
• We become extremely upset if others disagree with us
• We find it hard to communicate our view point’s to someone who has an opposite one
• Feeling an us Vs them vibration throughout our day

Does this mean that in order to become depolarised, we have to start changing who we are and engage with people we dislike? No way! But it does mean that we start to release the frustration that robs us of feeling self-empowered.

How to feel less polarised?
• Breathe. If we feel ourselves beginning to let frustration or even anger take over, we can take deep breaths before we act. We may notice that by focusing on our own energetic circuit, we begin to loosen our grip on the drama that was drawing us in.
• Become the observer. This technique requires some visualisation, but is fairly straight forward. In a conversation that causes us to feel polarised, simply take a step back and imagine that we are viewing this situation from an outside perspective, almost as a movie. Take time to view both sides. If we still feel that our view point, is the view point that we relate to, that is fine! We don’t have to change our opinions, we are just changing the way we either voice them/or receive others’.
• Ask ourselves, why do I care? This may sound like a blasé statement, but it is one that can help us hugely. Sometimes in life there are things we must stand up for and advocate for. Other times it is best to simply ask ourselves why we are letting whatever situation it may be hit a raw nerve.

Here is an example of a fictitious, online polarised conversation in action;
Person A: Well you’re wrong, and what you’re saying is stupid
Person B: I don’t think so, where do you get your information from anyway?
Person A: What is that to you? You need to grow up
Person B: How dare you speak to me like that!

(And on and on and on until someone gets fed up, or gets too upset)

What a depolarised online conversation would look like;
Person A: Well you’re wrong and what you’re saying is stupid
Person B: [Ignores comment and exists scene]

Internet ‘trolls’ in particular pray on polarised individuals for their own ends. As a teenager I learnt the hard way when ‘trolls’ caused me to leave social media, due to bullying.  If I could give my younger-self some advice I would say “Don’t feed the trolls ~ study the law of polarity instead”

We claim back our personal power, by managing and checking in with the way we feel regularly. We give our power away when we live from a reactive state of existence; meaning that how we feel is directly linked to how others’ oppose us.

Opposition exists for the sake of expansion. It does not exist to dim our light, or halt our growth, by keeping us in that opposing state energetically for long periods of time.

Breathe, observe, and release, in order to; grow, learn and reach our highest potential.

Alyssa x

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Five Keys to Avoid Overwhelm

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Before I share the five keys, I want to clarify the difference between overwhelm and burnout. Overwhelm is often an in-the-moment feeling and can be triggered by stress. It leaves us feeling as though we can’t handle everything going on around us.
However, unlike overwhelm, burn out happens when we haven’t been listening to the signals our body sends, we become exhausted and before long we’ve reached burnout.
This article focuses upon overwhelm, how to avoid it and how you can kiss overwhelm goodbye for good!
1. Just Say No!

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Are you saying n o enough? As someone who is most probably empowered, passionate and creative you have already learnt to say yes to lots of things. In most cases this is a positive practice. Saying yes pushes us out of our comfort zones. It opens amazing new doors of opportunity and growth. However, before you reach burn out check in with yourself and ask yourself; “am I saying yes to too many things?”
You can easily begin to feel overwhelmed when you can’t manage your obligations fully. Or perhaps you’ve taken on too many responsibilities. Now’s the time to take an objective step back and see if there are areas in your life that you could ‘trim back on’ to suit you better. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help, as feeling burdened is one sure way to lead to overwhelm.

2. Start Your Day Right

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When we start our day in the right frame of mind we feel more in control of our lives. Have you ever had a day you woke up late for something? Perhaps it left you feeling flustered and agitated and then you noticed ho w the rest of the day seemed to follow suit. Yes, we are human and those days can happen to us all. But when those days become more than a one off is when overwhelm will become a problem.
Begin your day in the most peaceful and productive way possible. The first thing I do is drink water with fresh lemon and yes, I do this before I check my phone, social media or emails! After waking we need to fuel our bodies. I also read a chapter from a book that inspires and motivates me. This offers me focus and intention for my own purpose that day.
Think about how you can start your day in the most positive and empowered way and come up with morning routines that nourish and nurture you. Maybe stretches, yoga or listening to an uplifting podcast. Having a morning ritual such as these, makes it very hard for overwhelm to find you and try to bring you down.

3. Don’t Hop Around

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See if you recognise yourself in any of these statements.
• I structure my workdays
• I move methodically from one project to the next, with space between each
• I finish one task and then move immediately to another
• I have many tasks on the go at any one time
• I’m restless and constantly checking social media, emails etc., while planning my day
When we create a schedule we’re less likely to face overwhelm. If we give ourselves set time between each task to reboot and reset, we’ll feel less stressed and better able to cope with the demands of our job. Unlike ‘hopping’ around with no organised plan, which can easily lead to overwhelm.
4. Tidy Up Time!

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I remember as a young child in school we had ‘tidy up time’. This was a set amount of time for the end of the day where we would get our coats, bags, lunchbox and pens packed and ready to be taken home. Now as an adult I still remind myself to participate in this tidy up time, in a new, structured and practical way.
So, how can you implement this same philosophy into your busy day? It’s simple, take time before your day has finished to catch up on any loose ends. After all, when you get home to spend time with those you love, they should have your undivided attention. But, that’s difficult to do if you’re thinking about that last email you should have sent, or the phone call you forgot to make.
By scheduling in 30 minutes before the end of each day, you’re giving yourself the opportunity to review, evaluate and complete those tasks that just can’t wait. You’re taking control of a much better work/life balance and creating harmony between the two.
5. Be the Captain of Your Own Attitude

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Are you ready to be the captain of your attitudes and improve the way you approach life?
Overwhelm, simply put, is when we feel we have lost control of the moment that we are in. It can leave us feeling; flustered, confused and stressed. But, what if we approached every moment from a conscious place of confidence, high energy and trust?
When unforeseen circumstances arise are you going to be the person who yells out, ‘I don’t know what to do!’ or are you going to be the person who calmly says to yourself, ‘I don’t have a plan right this second, but I know all things can be figured out and resolved’.
The decision is yours. If you make a conscious choice in every moment to stand in your own personal power, you are the calm within the storm. Decide to be the voice of reason when everyone else is in chaos.

Leave Overwhelm Behind for Good
Implement these strategies and;
• learn what to say no to
• start your day right
• enjoy a better work/life balance
• prioritise tasks
• be in control your own thoughts and
• you will very rarely feel overwhelmed again
We cannot see what the future holds, or what awaits us. But, we can breathe deeply and make a promise to ourselves that we will learn to handle everything we’re faced with. Whatever we have on our plate we can deal with….one step at a time.

 

Post written by Alyssa Cruise –

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